There’s a dangerous kind of sin — not the one you commit once, but the one you stop feeling bad about.

For many of us, sin has become so normalized that we hardly recognize it anymore.
Casual conversations with the opposite gender, listening to impermissible music, or engaging in actions that go against Islamic teachings — these may seem small, but they slowly erode the heart.

A brother once shared something with me that really made me think.
He said, “Bro, the scary part isn’t that we sin — it’s that we sin and feel nothing.”

Then he told me his story.

He said there was a time when he would message girls online — nothing too serious, just flirting a bit, friendly chats, and jokes. At first, he told himself it was innocent.
“I’m not doing anything wrong,” he’d say.

But what started as casual messages on social media slowly turned into longer conversations — late-night calls, FaceTime sessions, and eventually, meeting up in person, or as we call them, link-ups.

At first, he was cautious. He’d tell himself, “It’s just hanging out; I’m not doing anything with them,” even though deep down, he knew it was wrong.

He even told me there was a time, in the beginning, when after every hangout, he’d pray and ask Allah for forgiveness — feeling guilty, ashamed, and fearful. But over time, that feeling began to fade.
The hangouts became more frequent, the prayers less consistent, and the guilt almost disappeared.

When the Heart Grows Numb

Days turned into weeks, and soon, his heart no longer felt heavy after sinning — in fact, it barely reacted at all.
He began doing whatever his heart desired, even inviting his friends to “two-mens,” as he called it — small group link-ups that became a regular thing.
That’s when he realized how far he had drifted.

Even now, he told me, he’s still struggling to break free.
He still hangs out with girls, even though he knows it’s wrong.
“It’s a big problem for me,” he said. “Every time I decide to stop, another bad shorty appears out of nowhere. It’s like a test I keep failing.”

He told me, “It wasn’t the sin itself that scared me the most — it was how comfortable I became with it. That’s when I knew my heart was in danger.”

But even then, he admitted he didn’t stop.
He recognized that his heart had become desensitized, yet he continued down the same path, convincing himself he’d change eventually.

Those words stuck with me. Because that’s exactly what happens when we become desensitized.
The sin itself isn’t the only danger — it’s what it does to the heart.

If you can commit any act of sin without feeling guilt, without pausing to reflect or repent — then wallahi, this is a serious danger and sign of a weakening iman (faith).

Allah Is Always Watching

Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta’ala) is always watching.
He knows every glance, every word, every thought.
Nothing escapes His knowledge.

And when we persist in sin without repentance, we risk His punishment. That alone should make us tremble.

These are not minor mistakes. They are dangerous transgressions that jeopardize our Akhirah (Hereafter).
The saddest part is that many of us are risking eternal bliss in Jannah (Paradise) for fleeting moments of pleasure in this temporary world. 

So ask yourself honestly:
Is it really worth it?

This dunya will end.
The Akhirah is forever.
Yet, we often don’t realize the weight of our choices until the opportunity to change is gone.

(As for music, dating, relationships, and how they affect our hearts — that’s a topic I’ll address in later blogs, insha’Allah.)

A Call to Action

The good news — and it truly is good — is that Allah’s mercy never runs out.
No matter how far you’ve drifted, His door is still and always is open.

Start today.
Take one sincere step toward change.
Reflect on your life, identify where you’ve fallen short, and turn back to Allah in repentance.
Surround yourself with those who remind you of Him, and distance yourself from the spaces that darken your heart.

Don’t wait until your heart stops feeling before you start changing.

Let’s make a conscious effort to strengthen our iman, purify our souls, and live in a way that reflects the beauty of Islam.

May Allah protect us from heedlessness, guide us to righteousness, and keep us steadfast on His path.

Ameen.

Next Friday: Chapter 4 – The Illusion of “I’ll Change Later”
We all say we’ll change tomorrow — pray later, improve later, repent later.
But what if later never comes?
New blog dropping next Friday at 7 PM (ET).